Friday, February 21, 2014

How to be a Good Boyfriend

Figuring out how to treat your girlfriend with love and respect can be confusing at times. Find out how to be a good boyfriend and be the guy your girlfriend wishes you could be.
how to be a good boyfriend
There are a few things guys need to understand when it comes to knowing how to be a good boyfriend.
While men and women don’t really think along the same lines in a relationship, it’s rather simple to understand what it takes to keep a relationship happy.
For most men, intimacy is sexual companionship, while it’s just not the same for women.
But if you can learn to see the world through the eyes of your girlfriend, you’ll be able to understand what it really takes to be a good boyfriend.
How to be a good boyfriend
One of the easiest ways to be a great boyfriend is to understand your partner and put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
But for an easier way out, here are ten tips on how to be a good boyfriend that can help you make all the difference in your love life.
 Treat her like a lady
Boyfriends aren’t born great. They become good boyfriends by knowing how to behave with women and the girl they love.
One of the first steps in getting the admiration of a girl you like is to treat her like a lady.
Learn to be chivalrous and understand what it takes to make her feel special.
It’s easy to play nice until you get the girl, and treat her like you don’t care once the chase is over, but guys who do that will never be able to hold on to a great girl who’s desired by all guys.
 Respect her as a person
You can’t expect your girlfriend to do everything you want or behave the way you expect her to, just because she’s your girlfriend. Remember that she’s just your girlfriend, you don’t own her and shouldn’t expect her to behave like a trained monkey just because she’s likes you or you’re getting some action in bed with her.
If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, learn to treat your girlfriend with respect and pay attention to her needs. Don’t take her words lightly or ignore her advice just because she’s a ‘girl’. If you truly do love your girlfriend, you would respect her too.
And if you can’t respect her, it’s obvious it’s not love that’s holding the relationship together.
 Remember the special days
Do you ever forget your birthday? Of course, you don’t. You never forget your birthday because it’s a really special day that comes just once a year, right?
Don’t you think your anniversary is special too, or perhaps your girlfriend’s birthday? It’s really arrogant when a guy forgets a special occasion and then says it’s no big deal. If your own special day can be important, why can’t you understand that women give equal attention to their special days too. Try to make a conscious effort to understand your girlfriend and remember the special days if she’s indeed important to you.
 Be caring and affectionate
For men, what matters is physical intimacy and sex. For women, sex is equally important, but they do appreciate a lot of affection too. Just like sex matters to men, cuddles and affection matter just as much for women. Show your affection by spending time holding hands or sitting down in each other’s arms while having a conversation.
A warm hug and a few affectionate kisses mean more in love than wild sexual escapades. And it’ll help your relationship last longer too.
 Don’t take your girlfriend for granted
One of the most important aspects of knowing how to be a good boyfriend is to avoid taking your girlfriend for granted. If she gives you a foot massage or cooks a delicious meal for you over the weekend, just don’t take your girlfriend for granted and expect the same every weekend. In a great relationship, both partners have to understand the efforts of their lover and realize that every simple gesture is a sign of love and affection that should never be taken for granted.
Never ever take your girlfriend for granted or take a special gesture for granted. Instead, always learn to be thankful and appreciative of every single affectionate gesture.
 Support your girlfriend when she’s in need
All of us need a helpful hand when we’re in need. You don’t need to be clingy and become her Man Friday who’s there to answer her every beck and call. But when your girlfriend genuinely asks you for advice or help, be there to help her out.
Your weekend games or your male bonding time may be important to you, but on a rare occasion that your girlfriend asks you for a bit of help, make sure you’re by her side. It’s always reassuring for a girl to know that she can depend on her man for a helpful hand.
 Learn to apologize
Now this isn’t just isolated to boyfriends, but since we’re going over how to be a good boyfriend, we’ll stick to the man’s side of things. It may be egoistically painful to apologize, but sometimes, it’s a generous and yet humble move when a man can apologize to his girlfriend even if he’s not the one who’s wrong.
In the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get egoistic and have tempers flying on a high, but always remember that a simple apology can end the fight and help both of you communicate better. At times, apologize to your girlfriend even if it’s not your fault for the sake of the relationship.
P.S. You can always hint to your girlfriend that you’re still right when both of you are having a laugh after a few hours. It’ll help both of you sort your differences without getting blinded by anger or ego.
 Listen to her needs
Communicate and understand her needs and wants. Try to understand your girlfriend’s feelings, and even if she ever does sulk or behave grumpily, try to understand what’s going on in her mind instead of retaliating back in anger. Sometimes, women may find it easier to sit by themselves or throw an angry fit instead of getting straight to the point. It’s one of the differences in the way men and women react to pain or anger.
Instead of getting angry over her behavior, realize that men and women are different in such cases and try to understand her mind without losing your cool. It’ll make her feel better, and you a lot more understanding over time.
 Don’t try to dominate her
Most guys have a tendency to dominate their girlfriends. It may start out subtly in little ways like watching a favorite show or telling the girlfriend to avoid speaking to a few particular friends. But eventually, the urge to control a partner grows to an uncontrollable level, especially after marriage and even more so if the man’s the sole breadwinner.
This is one of the worst ways of trying to hold a relationship together. Instead of trying to dominate, learn to communicate. You can’t cage a lover or try to manipulate them into becoming what you want them to be. Love is about the attraction between two individuals. If you try to change someone, it’s not love that’s holding both of you together, it’s your insecurity and cowardliness.
 Push your girlfriend to be a better person
If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, this is as good as it gets. You know your girlfriend better than anybody else, flaws and all. Most guys assume a relationship is all about being happy and in love, and having a great time in bed. But that’s not where love ends.
Help your girlfriend become a better person and help her overcome her flaws. When both of you try to make each other better individuals by overcoming each other’s flaws, you can achieve more happiness and satisfaction out of life. Learn to positively criticize your girlfriend and help her with her flaws at the same time. By helping her become a better person, she’ll love you and respect you a lot more.
Always remember that knowing how to be a good boyfriend is easy, as long as you have the patience to look at the world through your girlfriend’s eyes and learn to understand her thoughts and her wants.

Friday, February 7, 2014

Perfect Love Quotes for Valentine Day Cards

Need ideas on what to write in a Valentine’s Card? Here’s an list of love quotes and sayings to start your message with, for whatever your romantic situation may be.

  1. Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.
    Bruce Lee
  2. You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. Dr. Seuss
  3. Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control. Unkown
  4. To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed. Valerie Lombardo
  5. To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed
  6. Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love. Albert Einstein
  7. It is difficult to know at what moment love begins; it is less difficult to know that it has begun. Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Quotes about true love

  1. In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing. Mignon McLaughlin
  2. True love always happens in a flash. Stephen King
  3. When you trip over love, it is easy to get up. But when you fall in love, it is impossible to stand again. Albert Einstein
  4. For true love is inexhaustible; the more you give, the more you have. And if you go to draw at the true fountainhead, the more water you draw, the more abundant is its flow.Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  5. True love stories never have endings. Richard Bach
  6. True love stories never have endings. Richard Bach.
  7. In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities. Janos Arany
  8. Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

Quotes about new love

  1. Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity. Albert Einstein
  2. When love is not madness it is not love. Pedro Calderón de la Barca
  3. The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. Helen Keller
  4. To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage. Lao Tzu
  5. To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage. Lao Tzu
  6. Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves. Albert Einstein
  7. To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.
  8. If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk in my garden forever. Alfred Lord Tennyson

Quotes for newly weds

  1. For you see, each day I love you more. Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow. Rosemonde Gerard
  2. You are the answer to every prayer I’ve offered. You are a song, a dream, a whisper, and I don’t know how I could have lived without you for as long as I have. Nicholas Sparks
  3. I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. Roy Croft
  4. If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you. A. A. Milne
  5. If you live to be a hundred,  I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never  have to live without you. A.A. Milne
  6. The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever. Nicholas Sparks

Quotes about enduring relationships

  1. You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. Sam Keen
  2. Love is not a matter of counting the years… But making the years count. Michelle Amand
  3. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, and always with the same person. Mignon McLaughlin
  4. You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not. Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
  5. You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not. Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
  6. Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.
  7. The best gift in life is knowing that we have someone who loves us unconditionally, who can make us laugh, who is there to listen and who warms our heart. Nishan Panwar
  8. Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit. Khalil Gibran
  9. When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too. Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

10 Ways To Tell A Guy You Love Him

Showing a guy how you feel about him is quite a task. Only words do not suffice. Action speaks much louder to convey your love. What actions need to be taken to let your guy know about your innermost feelings? Here are some ways for you to tell a guy how much you love him.

1. Be honest at all times

The first sign of your love for him is complete honesty. Honesty in a relationship does not mean that you throw everything on his face. It starts with a honest opinion and extends to telling it all to him without deviating from the facts. What happens if you try to hide something from your guy? Let’s face it, he will come to know of the truth sooner or later. When he comes to know about your lies, he will get hurt badly. On the other side, if you tell the truth, he will admire your sense of righteousness.

2. Argue, but the right way

Arguments are a part of every healthy relationship and God is yet to create a couple who has not fought even once in their lives. Arguing is an art and can work wonders, if used in the right way. Imagine if your partner agreed to everything you said, there would be no fun left in your relationship! What happens when both of you have difference of opinion about something? Most of the couples try to push forward their opinions simultaneously. Most of the times this results in disrespect towards each other. Instead if you have disagreement about something, why not do this- put forward your views and then let your partner put his views. This method does not result in disagreement and gives fair opportunity to both of you to put forward your opinion. Try to control your emotions and talk logically otherwise the exercise will lose its purpose.

3. Enjoy new experiences together

Experiencing new things together bring people closer to one another. When both of you try something new, you act like a team. This strengthens your bond and also helps you break free from your routine lives. Who knows, the experience might even make your partner fall deeper in love with you.

4. Compliment your partner

Complimenting is an art. A single compliment can do wonders to a person’s mood. There is a popular myth that it is only the girls who get complimented by guys. However, this is a thing of the past. Imagine how pleased your partner would be getting a compliment after a long and nasty day. Complimenting him is a way of telling him how you notice and appreciate little things about him. It tells him how much you care for him.

5. Avoid criticizing your partner

Criticisms may have a negative effect at times. Though it is claimed that criticisms help a person succeed, often it is proved otherwise. Most of the times, criticisms do nothing other than lowering a person’s self-esteem. When you criticize your partner in an unhealthy manner, you tend to attack his self-confidence and invoke negative feelings between the two of you. Constant criticism is very bad because it would ultimately result in huge cracks in your relationship. Therefore, the next time you are about to comment on his laziness or his choice of clothes, pause for a moment, think of the consequences and like a true companion, give him a positive advice. It will speak volumes about your feelings for him.

6. Plan a getaway as often as possible

Getting away from the world and enjoying in a place where both of you have nothing to worry about is one of the essentials of a good relationship. The two of you need to get away from the world occasionally, to remind each other about your love. Imagine your sweetheart’s surprise when he finds you planning a quick detour to spend quality time together. It will not only make him feel loved but would also give him the mental satisfaction that he can always count on you.

7. Go dancing

Dancing is a fun activity. It is one of the most romantic activities that a couple can do together. When a couple dances together, it brings them closer to one another. It is a lovely experience as you coordinate with each other not by words but by your movements. It is a time when both of your bodies speak to each other. Even if a partner makes a mistake, it is gracefully forgiven by the other. Dancing not only improves couple skills but it is also a whole lot of fun.

8. Stand up to him and for him

A special way to express your love for your partner is by standing up for him when the situation demands. Standing up and showing your support for your partner is an easy task. But the one task that is difficult, but at the same time shows your real love for him, is when you stand up to him and confront him on something he might have done wrong. Only someone who genuinely loves a person would tell him about the wrongs he might have done. This action would not only help you gain his love but also his confidence and respect. He will know that you are there to support as well as correct him in the journey of life.

9. Indulge in occasional ‘Guy’ things together

Guys have certain things that they love and cannot give up. Instead of blowing over his plans for the weekend, accompany him to the stadium and enjoy a ball game together. If your guy is a gaming freak, ask him to show you his collection and choose a game that the two of you can play. For any guy, a girl who can understand his ‘guy’ needs is a blessing. He will not only love you for your attitude but will also start being more comfortable with you. This is way of showing him that you love him the way he is and things don’t have to be only your way.

10. Let actions speak

For ages, girls have tried to express their feelings for their sweetheart with the help of words. However, many of the guys do not appreciate mere the use of fancy words. Instead, they believe in seeing them being implemented as actions in the relationship. For a guy, nothing can be better than having his lady give an occasional kiss, run into his arms and hold his hand. A girl’s touch tends to melt a guy’s heart, who pretends to be very strong externally but crave for love from within.
A guy always tries his best to fulfill the needs of his lady love, especially the emotional ones. In return, guys don’t ask for much but true love. When you meet your partner’s basic needs and are always there for him, he would love you more.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Sweet Things to Say to your Girlfriend

Being in love is a divine feeling. But after a while, you might start to look for some cute things to say to your girlfriend to maintain the sweetness in your relationship. You must be looking for some sweet things to say to your girlfriend to maintain good relations with your girlfriend. You may also need these tips if your relationship is in a mess.
Say for instance, if you forgot to wish her “happy birthday” or “happy valentine’s day” and now things are not too well in your relationship. At such a time, you must resolve all issues by saying some cute things to say to your girlfriend.
A love relationship, as you already know, is often accompanied by a lot of fights which complements the romantic moments. You can say her as ‘This dress really looks fantastic and you make just the gorgeous appearance’.
Sweet things to say to your girlfriend
Some things you can say to your girlfriend to re-kindle your relationship can be ‘It looks great tonight’ or ‘You always look beautiful and gorgeous’. You have to flatter her in different ways to her and keep her happy and joyful. Girls have hearts as soft as teddies and they do love flattery.
You’ll conjointly try and cheer them up with a trifle funny quip like “That dress should have looked nice – on your mother”. This might be at risk and can even trigger a fight, but then, quips like this are often loved by girls.
Give Surprises; Girls like them
Doing sweet things is simply as vital as speaking sweet things. For example, a surprising bunch of flowers continually goes down well, just like a surprise meal at a restaurant. These are the treats and an opportunity for your girlfriend (or wife) to place on the ‘glad rags’ and she will surely feel nice about herself.
What about an Outing?
If you have enough budgets to take her to an outing, you can go to in a hotel to spend some quality time with your girlfriend and build relationship with her. It is better to book a beach hotel and go for a long ride and enjoy there. During outing time try to say some cute things to say to your girlfriend.
Listen To Her
You should also be prepared to listen to her instead of just speaking every time. Sometimes it may be that she is just back from a busy day at work or is tired after a day full of household chores and want to dump and discharge all the tension on someone. As a life partner, it becomes your natural duty to listen to her in such situations and handle her frustration.
Not a really pleasant prospect granted, however it will pay huge dividends within the long-standing time.
Listening to others attentively is an art, particularly for boys when girlfriend is saying something as it impress her. It is a saying that ‘a problem told to her is half solved’ and if you’ll be able to simply hear her for a minute rather than expecting her to forever attend to you, then she is going feel far more better. These all the tips regarding cute things to say to your girlfriend will surely work for you.

8 Things Happy Couples Don’t Do

Sometimes, building a solid healthy relationship isn’t just about what partners do, but what they don’t do.
Here are 8 things that you won’t find in the habits of happy couples.
Discourage each other.
Two people who love and care for each other would never attempt to discourage their partner or hold them back in life. They encourage and support each other when it comes to chasing after goals and dreams.
Holding someone else back while in a relationship will only lead to resentment in the long run – ironically, loosening your grip often keeps someone closer.
Play mind games.
Even something as simple as “how long do I wait before I call?” goes out the window when you’re with the right person who is mature and understands you. Call when you want to call, text when you want to text. There will be no games or manipulation when building a solid foundation for a relationship.
Doubt each other’s feelings.
In a happy relationship, both partners know how much they mean to each other. Open communication and affection are important to minimizing insecurities and doubts.
Stop trying.
You know you’ve found a quality partner when they keep showing you how much you mean to them…long after they’ve got you.
Brush issues under the rug.
No relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time, but the challenges you face together are what make you stronger, both as individuals and as a couple. No problem can be extinguished unless it is faced, and couples who care for each other will be mature enough to have mature discussions and reach a conclusion.
When feelings are hidden, the other partner won’t know what they need to do or change in order to keep the other happy, so nothing will improve.
Snoop around.
One of the key ingredients to a happy relationship is trust, and people who trust each other don’t invade each others’ privacy by snooping around. There should be no need for a password protected phone or deleting your Facebook chat history. Trusting couples should be open books to one another and will have no use for being sneaky.
Dig up the past.
We all have a past that has shaped us into who we are today. Some experiences for better, and others for worse. Happy, mature couples understand that about each other and don’t use each others’ pasts as ammunition in arguments or to start issues.
Let things get stale.
Both inside and outside of the bedroom, it’s important that neither partner gets bored or feels as though things are getting stale. Often times intimacy in the bedroom is actually built outside of it through romantic gestures, showing of appreciation and affection, and always letting your partner know how much they mean to you.
Happiness in relationships is built on communication, trust, loyalty, and mutual respect. These are some of the cornerstones of love – without one, the other cannot exist.